Alas! I’m gonna be having another one of those deep chats with you guys (accompanied by some very windswept Abi pics) about learning to say no. Now I’m a MASSIVE yes girl, and I briefly touched on this in my what I learnt whilst working in retail blog post, which you should definitely check out if you haven’t already! But I wanted to talk about it in a bit more detail because I feel like this is something I have learnt over the past year or two. Again, this is going to be a “shove all my thoughts into one of these blog posts and see what happens” sort of topic, but do tell me if you’re a yes girl (or boy) and if you have changed over the past couple of years.
Learning To Say No (And Not Feeling Bad About it!)
Throwback to my retail days I used to say yes to EVERYTHING. Every. Single. Thing. Obviously within reason. But I’d sign myself up for soOOoo much overtime because I felt bad to say “no, actually, I kinda want a day off” period. I thought if I didn’t have a valid excuse as to why I couldn’t come in and work a shift, I couldn’t not have it off? Which is absolutely ridiculous because overtime isn’t compulsory. You can’t be forced to work what you aren’t originally contracted to do. I was close to running myself into the ground at one point because it was so easy to get into the rabbit hole of saying yes because you don’t want to disappoint people. It wasn’t until I realised I hadn’t seen my bf or even my bloody family properly I was like “hmm, maybe I should actually take a sec”.
It’s all about having a healthy work, friend, family, and you balance. If you’re feeling drowned in your work and social life you have probably already found that you’re not taking time for yourself.
Sometimes you just need to take some time for yourself.
It might be running yourself the bubbliest of baths, playing Sims, binge watching a Netflix programme… I feel like I’m listing all the things I do when I have a day off, but having time for yourself is SO important. Even if you aren’t doing anything you might think is “important” (umm building 3 houses on Sims is DEFINITELY important) you still deserve a break!
I will definitely say though, I’m one to talk because not going to lie I still to this day say yes to things that I probably should have said no to (still got that yes girl mentality my friends), but if it helps YOU realise that you’re currently working yourself into the ground like I was, and you might actually despise where you’re working because you’re not having a healthy break.
Learn to say no and DON’T feel bad about it. And anybody that tries to make you feel bad just needs to get in the bin.